More ways than one

How many of us have been convinced of "The One" bogus theory? 10? 50? 3million? 7 billion +? Yeah, I'm also in the same Whatsapp group. I can't count the number of times I've been told that every human on this planet only has one soul mate, one 'compatible' mating partner, on some sofa s'lahlane shit, that Prince Charming and Snow hullabaloo. 

    One kiss👀???
As soon as Disney was done convincing me that there's only one Charming for me...and one frog to kiss I entered high school and I was sold the idea that I must choose the one career path. This narrative is still reproduced in my now life as people ask what is it I do for a living and offer puzzled looks when I answer with a paragraph instead of one word. I'll admit it, the effort I sometimes unnecessarily offer  to try and condense my life experiences for their 'understanding' does not help me or the other. 
Side note:I do give one too many fucks sometimes🙍.

 I had been learning to view life from a place of lack, a place of 'you can't have your cake and eat it too', where having two wives or husbands is seen as 'sexual greed', a nigga can't even have two surnames in this country (unless married to a liberal)-my maternal surname matters too!


                                         Shade been thrown to dynamism since 1660 B.C👆👆

Anyways, I saw the light, bitjie bitjie at first and then all of it tonight...not really, no. I saw as much as I am now allowing and it's enough for an Aha Moment.  I am now letting go of this “the one“, very limiting belief. There is no one way I can make money, there is no one soul mate for me or for anyone even Snow White, God is not one man and there is really  no one Me. I am now actively declining invitations to Lackville, andizi 🙌. I've decided that the prosperity I've gathered - through life experience as well as opportunities to express joy can all come to me from many different sources. There are opportunities for me to be prosperous and joyous that I can't even begin to imagine. It can all come from anywhere really. I've seen this happen in my own life and in many others'. There's an abundance of options and these are all capable of flowing to me in many delightful ways, simultaneously too. I know this for sure.
                                                            LET IT RAIN!!!!!!!!!!!

Enele.





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